About Us

Hi, we’re Billy and Kelly. We’re an average 20-something (for not much longer!) married couple who’ve relocated from the hustle and bustle of the big city to the more moderate pace of suburbia. Billy works as a technology consultant, and Kelly works with higher education. We bought our first house with a huge backyard (compared to city standards), and it has already proven to have enough nooks and crannies for our crazed two-year-old cat Pepper to hide.

Yep, our lives are pretty run-of-the-mill except for one thing: I (Kelly) have misophonia.

Most people don’t know about misophonia. I didn’t even know it was what I had until I was 23. Ever since I was 9 years old I can remember being bothered to the point of tears by noises. I just thought I was crazy, that I was a horrible person for not being able to handle the normal noises family or friends were making.

Misophonia is, from what audiologists and doctors can understand at this point, a neurological and physical disorder in which negative reactions are triggered by certain sounds. They say these noise triggers affect the limbic system in some way, involving our natural “fight or flight” instincts whenever a misophonia sufferer hears them.

Billy, thank God, understands this is a real struggle in my life. We have acknowledged misophonia will be a lifelong battle in our lives. Indeed it is a constant source of stress and anxiety at home, at work, and in social situations.

So we decided to share our story, from two perspectives. We’ll write about our first house together—all the struggles, projects and crafts that come with it—along with our adventures and our challenges. This blog won’t be specifically about misophonia, but we’re not going to shy away from it, either. After more than seven years together, we believe it’s possible to live full lives together and have misophonia. We hope our story will bring you inspiration, comfort, and a little joy.

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4 thoughts on “About Us

  1. Kelly- Just opened your blog for the first time and want you to know I see kids all the time with this but did not know it was called misophonia! I have lumped it into the category of sensory integration disorder as an auditory (vs taste or touch) sensory integration issue. I often see these kids have other subtle soft signs of behaviors such as ADHD or autism depending on whether there are other areas of disorder. It seems as though there are a higher proportion of kids with “misophonia” with ADHD or autism. What do you know/think?

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    1. Hey Scott,

      It’s great to hear from you! It’s super encouraging to hear you’ve noticed the connection as well. From what we know (or at least have heard) others researching miso have made connections with other sensory processing disorders and ADHD, as well as OCD. We personally think there might be a connection with autism, but aren’t really sure. That said, there’s hardly any research on the topic available today, and it’s not really clear who “owns” care and diagnosis for miso (we’ve talked to audiologists, physicians, and psychologists, all who are working with patients). I’d be happy to send you some of their names if you want.

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  2. Hello there. Ive has misophonia for around 40 years, its only had a name for a few of those, and I, like you, just thought I was a bit of an oddball. Anyway, just wanted to congratulate you on you positive blog. I’ve unsubscribed from other related social media sites as they mainly seem to be about angry ranting and didn’t help me, just increased my focus on misophonia and how hard it is sometimes. My coping mechanism has mainly been around distracting myself or general avoidance and it hasn’t stopped me leading a fulfilling life. I too have found an understanding partner. Although we don’t necessary go to the same lengths as you, he just adjusts to my routines, adjustments and preferences without too much fuss and by the sounds of it, I don’t have as many trigger types, which helps. Typing and cutlery are fine for me.
    Anyway, glad you’ve built your life around it so positively and at such a young age. Focussing on the things you love doing is the way to go. I’ve just moved out to the sticks in Wales, it’s beautiful and silent! I feel blessed.
    Lisa

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    1. Thank you, I agree that you need to try to stay positive in this and so many outlets end up just being negative. I’m not saying I don’t get upset that this is my situation, and it’s okay to get angry. But getting angry isn’t going to make me happy. I’m glad you and your partner are able to approach this together. Your place in Wales sounds amazing! How nice to be in such a relaxing environment.

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